Be the change that you want to see

I have a bad habit of thinking I know what is best when it comes to my family. This is a habit I would like to one day be rid of. Earlier this summer I went on a Life Mastery training with my beautiful and courageous mother. I kind of showed up on her door step and kidnapped her for the weekend. Haha…I am one pushy daughter. The good thing was that she came willingly. Not that I would have tied her up and tossed her in my trunk or anything. But there had been times before where I invited her to similar training’s but as I soon would come to realize I could not have made her do anything that she was not ready to do. It was in that training where I realized  as the instructor looked straight at me and said,  “sometimes our children think they know what is best for us”, that it was not up to me to decide what my mother or any of my family members needed to live a peaceful life. Not only did I realize that but I never thought to ask what my mother needed from me. Sometimes I would think, “If my mom only did this or stopped doing that she would be happier”. Never thinking,  “what if she doesn’t want to do that”. Really I was just being selfish. I wanted her to be okay so that I didn’t have to worry is what it really came down to. But knowing what I know now I realize that the only person I need to be concerned with was and still is me. I need to be the change that I want to see. The only person I can ever control is me. And as I stated in one of my earlier blogs worrying does not make me responsible. Everyone has a time in their life when they look at what they have been doing and ask themselves whether it has been working for them or if they need to make a change. And I am finding more and more that when people need a change they reach out to me and ask for advice. Anytime a friend or family members come to me I take it as the highest compliment.  I live my life always looking to improve myself on all levels. And the question that always comes to my mind when anyone is in need is, “how can I help?”. The training I did with my mom released me from all the worry I had about my mom. I saw her come out of that training with the same realization that all 18 of us who attended the training had and that was that we control everything in our lives. We have the power to alter the things around us by improving ourselves. I saw my mom reach out to her family and that to me was huge. It just takes one person to touch many many more. I began my transformation with my big brother who I look up to over a year ago and now I look around and see what has changed with us two and I am amazed. We are LEADING by example and with that comes a big responsibility but it is one that I am more than happy to carry.  I do fall down but I am now surrounded by many leaders that pick me right back up and I keep moving. I have asked myself , “What is my purpose?” and I finally know what it is. It is to help everyone that ask for help and to lead by example so that my kids will do the same now and when they become adults. I invite you to do the same. BE THE CHANGE THAT YOU WANT TO SEE!